“I am the first example of how the world is supposed to love me. I have to give them the BEST example EVER! I can’t expect others to treat me better than I’m treating myself. It’s unfair and unrealistic.” – Lisa Nichols
I was recently listening to an Oprah episode called “Oprah’s POWERFUL Secret to SUCCESS Using the Law of Attraction – Oprah Winfrey Show”. I am a huge fan of Lisa Nichols and was really excited to see her on this episode. When I heard her speak the above-mentioned nugget, I stopped what I was doing, grabbed pen and paper and knew I had to dig deeper with this one.
I’m blessed to have the opportunity to work with many women in their journey towards greatness and creating a life they love living. Too often during our conversations, I hear, “I don’t take ‘me time’.”, “’Me-time’ is a luxury I can’t afford.” or “I have too many others to take care of to take care of myself.” And then the conversation leads to “why doesn’t anyone appreciate all I do.”
Guess what? You’ve told them how to treat you by putting yourself LAST in your own life! And, you are teaching your children, especially your daughters, to do the same. This is not about being selfish with your resources. This is about creating a healthy environment to be more, do more and achieve more.
Remember on your last airline flight when the flight attendant went over the safety instructions? If you travel nearly as much as we do, I’m sure you’ve heard it so many times you can recite it yourself. “Incase of a loss of cabin pressure, oxygen masks above your seat will deploy,please place the mask on yourself first and then assist your child or other passengers”. Have you ever wondered why? I was curious, so I looked it up…”in a commercial passenger flight, the oxygen masks contain enough oxygen only for 12 minutes and after that everyone onboard will go unconscious due to Hypoxia (oxygen deprivation). If the flight is at a higher altitude like 20,000 ft. or above, within 20 to 60 seconds one can get unconscious. This is the main reason flight attendants always advise you to put the oxygen masks first and then assist your children or other passengers – in case of an emergency.” (1)
For those of you ladies out there who are exhausted and out of steam…running yourselves ragged. Do yourselves a favor…give yourself a TIMEOUT! No regrets, no guilt, no shame! Stop doing laundry for 15 minutes and have a dance party with your kids in the middle of the living room, go soak in the tub for 30 minutes (don’t forget the glass of wine and your favorite chill playlist), order in dinner, take a walk, barter with another mom for babysitting and go to a movie or plan a date night with your significant other, take a yoga class. Understand that you are doing this, SO YOU CAN take care of others. Show yourself LOVE by allowing yourself TIME to heal, to regroup, to breathe, to improve, to get stronger, to build relationships. Show your daughters that it’s not a luxury to take care of yourself. Show others that you are worthy to be taken care of.
Lisa Nichols went on it that interview to say, “we expect someone to show us our greatness when I’m supposed to show up understanding my greatness and allow you to celebrate with me!” Greatness isn’t about being a celebrity or having great wealth. It’s about living with an understanding of our unique gifts and using them. It’s about understanding your purpose on this earth and making a difference in a way that is unique to you. You are special. You are unique. Take care of YOU so that you can continue to be a blessing.